A long overdue wedding update is warranted: we have found and secured another venue, and are saving money by doing it. We're still getting married in Breck, but at a more affordable place that is just super cute on its own. The relief I feel in not having to mange money with friends and relatives and places to stay is MASSIVE. Wedding tip #1: don't make the crucial parts of your wedding dependent on other people. It will just stress you out needlessly and endlessly.
Wedding tip/life reminder to myself: like it or not, people are not going to show up for me, follow through for me, in the ways that I do for them... And that's ok. I just need to temper my expectations and ensure that when I show up for others I am doing it out of pure place of giving. Pure. Not clouded by a hidden expectation of reciprocation.